Wednesday, October 3, 2007

Fear and Loathing in Law School

Last a week a friend of mine was stabbed to death in Bangalore.

He was not the kind of guy who would like mourning. So I shall not try to be too sappy. Furthermore, if you see my post on suicide, you will know that I do not consider death tragic. However, there are times when death can be brutally senseless.

I think I can remember four people who died in college– one smashed out of his mind hit a road railing on his bike, two suicides and another really messed up guy who O.D-ied on the street outside college. But I would lie if I said those people meant anything to me. And they were all practically suicides. You shook your head and continued with life.

Looking at a dead person’s Orkut page is like seeing a ghost. It makes your hair stand on edge. Alyosha Kumar’s tells me that he loved ‘ridiculousness’.

Alyosha had a complex sense of humour. ‘Ridiculousness’ is the kind of word that describes his antics and jokes. But I loved to run into him on campus or in the hostel. He said and did spectacular things all the time. Some people considered him weird but to me he was without a doubt one of the bright sparks in law school. Amongst all the Fuglies in the world with their head up some Professor, Senior Advocate or Partner’s ass, he kept a smile on my face.

He was a gifted defender at Football with great tackles. He was also a fantastic Basketball player. Alyosha was a supreme athlete and was tough as nails. Another quality extremely rare in college. But he wasn’t some weird stupid jock. We mooted together and were part of a firm that put me on a Vienna team something I will be grateful to him for that till I die. He may not have topped his class but he had a fantastic legal brain along with wide-ranging eclectic interests including music and books.

That is just one of the most senseless things about this particular death. Alyosha was someone who was so full of life. A genuine character who can never ever be replaced.

There are so many events that conspired in his death.

For starters he was never supposed to be in Bangalore at that time.

In Law School, the student body is supposed to be responsible for its own discipline. Then, came along this guy who I compare to Greg Chapell, who decided that he needed control over the disciplinary mechanism in order to fix the ‘wrong’ students. Since then, it becomes the responsibility of Appointed Students to report people to the faculty for suspension or even rustication. Nazi informants or Prefects for 23 year olds. You decide.

So a fellow student got Alyosha suspended for three months extending his stay in Bangalore. I think for possessing marijuana or something like that. He was stabbed hours before he was supposed to leave Bangalore for good. There will blood on the hands the people responsible for holding Alyosha back no matter how unintentional or good intentioned their actions were. The person who snitched must think- what if..

Then, there’s the present climate against non-Kannada speakers in Bangalore. My friends in Bangalore tell me that people are forever pissed off nowadays. Angry and itching for a fight. And Bangalore could rival Delhi when it comes to harassment of women especially once it gets dark. It is the only city I know that turns into a war/riot zone on New Year’s eve with biker gangs roaming around or setting up road-blocks to create trouble.

Yes, South Indians are mistreated by North Indians. Agreed. Yes, there are a lot of losers from North India who bring their obtuseness to Bangalore. However, racism for whatever justification is still racism.

There is this trait in the Kannada movement, typified as the sort of treachery that is being exacted by the Gowda family (who are at the vanguard of the movement) on the BJP right now by not honouring the power-sharing agreement. This goes right down to the auto driver on the street and the petrol pump vendors. These are people who jeopardize the futures of their children by not teaching them English in schools or justifying and spreading xenophobia amongst their people and violence as a solution. And when H.D. Kumaraswami’s son smashed a local restaurant (Empire) for not serving him food late at night, his excuse for signing a confessional police statement was that he could not read Kannada well!

And whatever is the solution to the spoiling of Bangalore’s atmosphere by loose moral outsiders I would suggest that stabbing people to death is not the solution. Nobody deserves to be stabbed and die bleeding on the road no matter how reckless a life they lead.

Alyosha Kumar it was a pleasure to know you. My condolonces to your parents and family.

Ridiculousness. That’s how I’d remember your sense of humour. Even your death, for that matter.

15 comments:

Malavika said...

I have never met you nor heard of you(to my recollection), but I promise to meet you soon. My name is Malavika Singh and I am Alyosha's cousin.
I do not know how long you had known Alyosha but I have grown up with him and there is NOT one word in your post that i cannot agree a 100% with. "WEIRD" is what I called him but that was because he just could and would not express his emotions. He was often misunderstood for solely that reason. I'm glad to know he was, in fact, managing to have people truly understand him, but I do not know how far he'd gotten with that.
It has been very hard for all of us, but writings like yours, i'm sure, would make us and him smile.
Thank you so much.
P.S. - I hope you keep in touch.

W.T.F. Ittabari said...

Dear Malavika,

I cannot begin to understand what your family must go through.

Alyosha was my junior in college. I wasn't his best bud but i knew him enough to get him. and i know a lot of people in law school amongst whom he will always be well loved. of course i would say alyosha was 'unique' more than 'weird'.. irrespective of that..he was a character... that's why we liked him so much.

i use a pseudonym for this blog so i dont think you would hear about me. mail me your email address if you want to keep in touch.

a real shame.

Jian said...

malavika,

I was his junior in college and was associated with him in many ways. Spent a lot of time with him in the last three months that he was there. There's a lot of us there who're grieving in college. We're all prayin for you. Do keep in touch. Your cousin was a very very special person.

w.t.f ittabari,

I might or might not know you. but i agree.

Malavika said...
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Malavika said...

Dear w.t.f. ittabari,
I must first thank you on behalf of the whole family because your post has touched one and all.
Beautiful memories of his life are all we are left with, and it is wonderful to have inputs like yours to help us gather memories of the times he spent with all of you. I must also tell you, that though he had some extremely troubled times in NLSIU, he loved it at the end of the day and always had a smile at the end when he narrated stories of the incidents that took place in bangalore whether grave or comical.
It is a real shame that he, who could have changed the world in many ways, was never given a an opportunity to.
My email address is malavika112@hotmail.com; malavika.singh@gmail.com.
Do keep in touch.

Malavika said...

Dear Jian,
Thank you so much for getting touch. It would be a pleasure to meet you.
I would consider you extremely lucky since you had the chance the spend the last 3 months (of his life) with him. The last time I met him was when he came down to Pune in January(we met twice or thrice a year on an average whenever he had a vacation). He was supposed to visit us again before going to Mumbai but destiny had something else is store.
Do keep in touch. My email address is malavika112@hotmail.com; malavika.singh@gmail.com

prabha said...

Thank you for your kind thoughts about Alyosha. I am his Bua (father's sister) We had a good rapport and I will miss him. I still have a letter he wrote me when he was about 6 yrs oldGod bless you and may he give you health and happiness.
Prabha Rao

Anonymous said...

Alyosha was an absolute darling. I roomed with him for a year in Law School, loved the guy tremendously. He lived life on his own terms, which is what won him our respect and admiration. I know we will meet again, somewhere, someday. I tend to get a bit philosophical about death too - after all, we are ALL going down that road someday. Its just a shame that this had to happen just when life promised to give him a clean slate to re-start with. I caught up with him (by accident) a few hours before he died, at the cricket stadium. We had so much fun; in retrospect I keep thinking that I'd never seen him that happy or that full of life. (Of course, what transpired subsequently may be making me a tad melodramatic, but its true that he was so incredibly thrilled at finally finishing his degree and moving on.)

For what its worth, we (by which I mean a few close friends and NLS alumni) are doing EVERYTHING to ensure that justice is meted out to the two criminals responsible. We will oppose bail at every stage, ensure rigorous prosecution, push for maximum sentencing. I know retribution serves no purpose, and Al himself would have had a very different take on this, but something inside me wont forgive me if I didn't ensure we did this for him.

RIP Al. You were one of a kind. Take care of yourself man, till we meet again!

Anonymous said...

alyosha was a junior of mine - i interacted with him more after i graduated, as i tended to bump into him, whenever i dropped into campus.. he was always there - smiling.. i recall staying up an entire night in hostel, chatting with alyosha n other juniors n walking upto nags for idlis n coffee.. alyosha walked with me, barefoot.. other conversations were had in pubs, with ex-gfs, and so on.. i feel terrible knowing i will not meet alyosha someday, quite by accident.. i can only imagine the sense of loss for his family and friends.. i can only offer a small prayer for him.

Anonymous said...

Everything about ALyosha was so sincere, so earnest, so heartwarmingly genuine - from his game on court to his broken kannada spoken with that disarmingly mischievious smile.

Rest in Peace, Alyosha. You have no idea how much you will be missed.

Anonymous said...

Hi WTF ittabari,

It's been a long time. I was part of the same firm, as you would recall. Alyosha was my roommate for four years and a bit. I'm trying my best to get my head straight. Thanks for writing this. It really helps.

Please drop me a line. I'd really like to get in touch with you again: e9ki@yahoo.com

Satyajit Sarna

Dhruv said...

Hey guys, I was equally shocked when I heard this, I only knew Alyosha for one year when I was in boarding school back in the 7th grade, and he was in the 8th grade, and yes he liked playing basket-ball then too. Never spoke or kept in touch with him after I left but he was genuinely nice guy to hang around and always funny.

I will always remember him as the boy who had the corner bed in our dorm, who kept his corner very messy i.e. never folding his clothes or making his bed when everyone else would because they were scared of the consequences. Our dorm mistress (frida ma’am) would always complain to him and our head master about him being messy but he didn’t change and somehow never got in trouble.

This is a real shame and disappointment as to what has happened and I hope he R.I.P and i really hope for the worst for both the men that did this.

Dhruv Makkad

Anonymous said...

What kind of a tightarsed prefect would have a problem with marijuana consumption. Dreary cocksuckers like these make the world a viler, hateful place to be.

And they're winning the war on happiness, I swear.

Brown Suga' said...

I am an old classmate and it's only now that I can give words to my bewilderment and anger.

Way back in class 9, he was standing up for things like womens' rights and would discuss topics like euthanasia. He was way ahead of his time. I remember he was a brilliant orator, and while he was considered an eccentric by most people, we still had a soft corner for him because we knew he was capable of greatness.

A greatness that, unfortunately, was crushed before it could blossom and let the world know of its presence.

Alyosha, I know heaven's supposed to be a place full of perfection and joy and no sorrow, but I hope that there's plenty of shit up there just so you can have yourself a good fight.

Anonymous said...

Yes, I also know of the tragic sequence of events that snatched Aloysha from all of you.His Amma ( old lady at NLS gate) would also miss him as you all do. I thought he was dark and handsome but then I was told he was fair and handsome. God also needs good and young people to run his domain. I am sure he will be made a king in heaven and he will, as was his nature, helping and kind, serve the mankind for a very very long time. Let us pray together for eternal peace to his soul.